Thursday, February 3, 2011

48 Laws of Power FRIDAYS! - Law 4

Law 4: Always say less than necessary.

When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinx like. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.
This law is self explanatory. Sometimes it is best to keep your mouth close. I have always been what people call "quiet". Now do not get me wrong, I can talk someone's head off, but only with close family and friends. Anytime new people are around or if I am in a new environment, I shut up. I really like to observe my surroundings before opening up mouth and saying something crazy or out the way.
Mr. Greene suggests that a person who cannot control his words shows that he cannot control himself and is unworthy of respect. I kind of agree with this statement until we get to respect part. Another statement that I agree with is, "The human tongue is a beast that few can master. It strains constantly to break out of its cage, and if it is not tamed, it will run wild and cause you grief." I know A LOT of people who has ruin great opportunities because of their mouth.
Actually this law goes with what I discussed last week. Instead of trying to "deceived" people, how about one just keep there mouth close and do what they have to do. Shall I say that Law 3 and 4 contradict themselves??? Hmmm......
Mr. Greene feels that the more we keep our mouth shut, the more we appear more powerful and greater than the other person because the other person feels like they just have to know what we are thinking. The more we talk, the more information and power we give away. By talking a lot we are revealing ourselves. This may be true for some aspects of your life, but I do not see it working in EVERY aspect of your life, especially personal relationships and marriages.
I do believe that words have extreme power and we should not take them lightly because once we say something, its out there so we need to choose our words carefully.
However by not saying a lot, I see this law can cause people to look at you differently. Mr. Greene feels that by saying little, you are saying a lot and that maybe true, but is your silence saying something negative or positive? By keeping your mouth close, you may garner enemies because it will put people on the defensive.
What I take from this law is that just because the Mr. Greene suggests that we say less does not mean that we do not say anything, it just means that we need to be careful about what we say. Lastly, law 3 and 4 could have been one law together....
Have a great weekend!!!!

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